Eschewing Emotional Manipulation of Children

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize as a parent that when I tell my child that I will leave them if they do not come with me that this will create a great consequence for the child in terms of imprinting them with fear which will diminish their ability to live effectively.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that as a parent, when I tell my child that they have to come with me or I will leave them, or I walk away and say 'Bye, I'm leaving now' instead of clearly supporting them to understand that it is time to leave and that we will all be going and supporting them to make the decision to come with me without fear, that if I do that, I am only supporting the child to exist in fear, and I am deliberately using the fear of loss to emotionally manipulate them.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that, as a parent, I can prevent a situation where my child will not come with me by communicating with them effectively from the beginning and supporting them to develop an effective vocabulary and ability to communicate, and that I must support myself with this as well, and by doing that I can create an agreement with my child of support where communication is used instead of force and emotional manipulation.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that when I use force or emotional manipulation with my child, this in no way supports them to be able to make effective decisions, it in fact dumbs them down, because if I do not support them to understand reality and understand consequences through common sense and logic and instead imprint them with fear then they will live their life in fear and always trying to avoid the experience of negative emotion, which is not an intelligent way to live.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize, as a parent, the degree and extent of influence that I have, and that every word, every encounter, every experience counts and builds my child's understanding of the world and their understanding of themselves and directly affects their self-esteem.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize the degree to which I affect my child's self-esteem.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to believe that my child is just learning everything on their own, so that I can feel like my child is special and therefore that I am special, when in fact I am the primary (along with my spouse) influence on my child and determine virtually everything about who they will become and how they will live.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that if I take emotional manipulation and force off of the table, then I will have to become MORE CREATIVE and support myself to become BETTER in order to be able to communicate with my child from the beginning effectively.

I commit myself to show that the best way to parent, is to take force and emotional manipulation off the table as an option, and rather 'force' myself to develop effective communication, clear, direct, and explain as much as possible, and that through this, my child will develop a keen ability to understand and communicate and reason.

Course Correction

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize the depth to which I can get caught up in thinking about something to the point where I convince myself of a reality that may or may not exist in fact, but is not based on self-honest assessment, but based on a conviction created through repetition of thoughts and feelings until the reality that I imagine is so in fact at least in terms of my being convinced, but that does not mean it is actually so in fact in actual physical reality.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to get caught up in my thoughts, feelings, and emotions, and not stop within.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge myself for getting caught up in my thoughts, however that does not excuse me from continuing to allow myself to do so, but I realize that judging myself is just another form of thinking and does not solve the problem.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to make assumptions about others based on little bits of information intertwined with my own thinking process and subject to the points in my subconscious and unconscious mind that are still aligned within the starting point of self-interest and thus creating an entire scenario in my head from which I begin acting and speaking and in that state not being willing to consider that I am in a possession of thinking instead of being here, breathing, and letting go of the thoughts, feelings, and emotions that are coming up.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to place more value on 'changing the world' than 'changing myself' - not considering fully as really living the point, that changing myself IS changing the world - that does not mean that the outer world does not have to change, but if I am only changing the world externally, but I am still allowing thinking, feeling, and emotion to guide me, then I am not really changing internally in those moments, because I am only building up energy and giving more power to my mind, which would imply that I am not in fact changing, and thus how can the world be changing - because it is easy in that state to convince myself, through thinking, that the world is changing, however if it is something that is being imposed despite myself changing, then what am I participating in? Changing the world? or a character of someone who believes they are changing the world?

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to participate in the feeling of despair that I have once again been caught up in my mind, though I realize that this is a process of making mistakes from time to time, falling down, and standing up, and thus I realize that the point is not to participate in feelings or thoughts or emotions of despair or giving up or feeling sad, but to breathe, and to let it pass, and to stand up, and to realign myself, firstly and primarily within, as why I am really here and who I really am beyond thinking, feeling, and emotion, as to standing up withing myself as Life, which even though I don't really, fully understand, I know deep down is really who I am and I know that it is possible to do so.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that there is a place for having a group to support within openness and self-honesty that supports each one within where they are at, and is not about forcing another to move but supporting and sharing through example when necessary, and that this is in fact needed in the world, because in any other context, this would cause a person to lose in the system, and thus this type of openness is not possible in the context of the current system, and thus having this space for individuals to walk and share and not fear judgment of others or fear being forced into walking one path versus another is of utmost value and must be respected and honored as it is a unique expression in this world, and thus it is not the place to bring in competition, sales, marketing, business, manipulation, control - and though, in self honesty, these things are required in the business world, which is why you see it at all levels in the major corporations that have any level of influence in the world, it is not acceptable to bring it into a group dynamic based on openness, sharing of one's process, and the walking of one's individual process to align within the starting point of equality and oneness.

I commit myself to walking this process, to checking myself when I am thinking, feeling, participating in emotions, to really become aware within myself when there is energy moving, to not make an excuse about it and justify, which is really just fear of loss, and I realize that when I am fearing to lose something, that is the indicator that I am not really here, standing as who I really am, but rather just supporting the existence of a character through thinking, feeling, and emotions and when I go into a feeling of either self-defense or attack, that it is an indicator that I have moved beyond the fear of loss into trying to protect or force something.

I commit myself to show to myself that I can both simulaneously walk this process FOR MYSELF to change my inner while at the same time walking my process in the outer - standing as a point within business to show that business can be done from a different starting point, yet remaining self-honest about what is required to be effective as a business IN THIS SYSTEM, while moving towards the point of what is best for all.

I commit myself to show that in the business world, self-honesty is realizing that the system is competitive, and if I do not push my business forward, a business based on a product that is best for all, that will support the world to move towards a system that is best for all, then someone else will use the system to keep everything the same which means things will only get worse in this world.

I commit myself to show that while one can focus on self primarily, one still has to do something in this world as 'work' or 'labor' in order to survive and provide financing to projects that would be either best for all or moving things towards what is best for all, and thus one choice that a person could make is to work in a business, such as TechnoTutor, where one can both create financial freedom for themselves and support the creation of an education system that would support many people to increase their processing speed and walk this process of self change more effectively, though one must understand that walking in the business world requires self-honesty about how it actually works and what is required to be effective in business, thus it is not for everyone, nor is everyone needed to make it work, because currently only 1% (or less) really have any direct influence on the masses, and so within the context of TechnoTutor, or even just business that moves the world closer to what is best for all in terms of adjusting the system as economic system and education system, for example, only a new 1% is required.

I commit myself to show that one can both walk as an individual sharing one's process and supporting others in that context, and if one chooses, one can also walk within the system in terms of creating money and developing the skills required to have more influence in the system while also creating a network in that context to be able to eventually stand as a network in the system (which is how the current 1% function, just that their network's implicit purpose is to not change the system so that the 1% remain the 1% instead of adjusting the system to create the conditions where all are supported to have what they need and alleviate all fear of survival, instead of using it to control to maintain a position of superiority in the system).

Stability

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go out looking for an argument or to create a conflict in order to prove that I am right or superior.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that I seek out conflict in order to experience the energy within someone arguing with me and either feeling afraid or less than, which is an energy experience, which I then use to go back and argue again in order to win, or I experience the winning energy of superiority and righteousness.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that I have an addiction to the energy experience of feeling right or feeling like I have won or that someone thinks or believes that I am right or better than them.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that I have a low self-esteem within this I attempt to 'make myself feel better' by creating conflicts where I can prove my superiority, but within this all that I am doing is feeding a constructs desire for energy that exists as a character in my mind.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to seek out and participate in conflicts and arguments in order get the experience of being right or winning because I think/feel that I need to prove to myself that I am strong and can win.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that as a young child, my life was quite unstable, and thus I have developed a personality and character that uses intellect, knowledge, and argument in order to have a sense of control over myself, my environment, and others to give myself the feeling of stability that I believe I lack.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that stability does not come from winning an argument with another.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that the only thing I am keeping 'stable' so to speak is the existence of a character/personality/construct that seeks out conflict and argument in order to try and win.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that stability is here as my physical body, breathing, and it is within physical structures, not energy, and thus I can establish myself in a moment as stable, here, by breathing and letting go of the energy experience and desire for energy experience.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that it is by me and others participating in the mind in the pursuit of energy and ignoring what we are doing to physical reality in terms of how we are allowing it/creating it to be structured that is allowing/creating instability within the experiences/lives of so many beings on this planet, and I have placed my focus on trying to win in order to get a sense or feeling of stability instead being stable, breathing, looking at what is not best in my environment as structure that is creating instability in the world that is creating, for example, situations where parents are not able to give their children what they really require, as was the case with my childhood, and thus created the feeling and construct of seeking 'stability' as a feeling within me as a child.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define the word 'stability' within the context of the mind/consciousness/energy within only a feeling that I personally have defined as the ability to win arguments through the use of my intellect and knowledge.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define the word stability within the context of feeling, as stability is the ability to maintain a feeling within myself of power, excitement, security, comfort.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that stability for it to be best for all, must create an OUTCOME for all that is best equally and within this I see that the word stability can be redefined to a structure that always produces what is best at all times with no whim or chance or bias, where for example a stable money system would be one that ensures that each child, adult, animal, plant, etc always receives what they required in order to exist in their specific form in the optimal way, in the way that supports them contributing to the balance of what is best for all.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that stability comes from who I am as the decision to apply myself within the tools of writing, self forgiveness, and self corrective application in order to change myself to remove that which is not best as who I am as what I have defined as my nature and to thus do the same without in the system to remove those elements that are creating instability in the lives of so many to recreate the system in the image and likeness of true stability which is directing resources, activity, etc to all parts equally according to what they require to exist in the best way at all times.

I commit myself to SHOW that stability is not something that one feels, it is something that one IS through being here, breathing, directing oneself within what is best for all, which in the current context of our system, is walking one's process consistently day by day, to eventually stand clearly in every moment - I realize that in moments I may fall as I walk through the layers of energy characters in my mind-physical, however within this context, stability would be the decision to always get back up, and to not dwell on the failure, but to forgive myself and to stand up and continue applying myself and to look at that which cause the fall, to remove that which is not best and then within that to continue walking in this world, supporting myself, others and standing up within the world in order to bring forth an equal money system to create the stability within money that will allow all to walk their process in stable, consistent manner, and to move the world towards the realization of the equality of Life and thus the establishment of ALL the necessary systems to create stable environment for Life to express itself fully at all times without limitation or fear..

Fear of Failure as Trying to Control Others

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear standing up for what is best both within myself and with other people.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that if someone had not intervened in my life, I would not be where I am and not be on the path to self-realization as self-awareness as Life.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that I cannot force another to choose what is best, as this is not what is best in any case, because what is best can only be freely chosen by each one as a statement/act of self-responsibility within self-awareness.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to place value and expectation on others to walk their process at a certain speed and pace when I have take quite a long time to even move past one point within myself/my mind on many occasions.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that the best approach to supporting others is to simply walk my process effectively, and share my process and give support to those who ask.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to try and control others, when I would not want to be controlled by others, I would appreciate someone supporting me when I ask, but allowing me to make mistakes and fail when that is what is required for me to realize what I am accepting and allowing.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear failing and to fear allowing others to fail, when it is not possible to prevent failure in all cases, it is part of the process to support myself to see what it is that I am accepting and allowing that I am not in that moment allowing myself to be self-honest about.

I commit myself to walking my process of removing all fear, developing self-trust as self-awareness and self-responsibility and discover what Life really is and support each one who enters my awareness and experience with my example.

Will AI Strip Us of Freedom in the Name of Survival?

I got the new iPhone X a few months ago, and I've noticed a very interesting thing: when I am with a client, my phone will buzz sometimes an hour or 45 minutes in advance an my next appointment, and let me know about driving time based on current traffic conditions. Even if I check it, sometimes it will continue buzzing every few minutes with updates. I never asked it to do this and it didn't do it when I first got the phone. The really 'spooky' part is that for many of my appointments, I don't have the address programmed in, either to the contact of the person I'm meeting or in the location section of the appointment on my calendar app. This would imply that my phone is learning from past experience that when that person's name is on my calendar at the same time each week that I am likely going to the same location. In other words, it has learned where that particular client lives or works based on my having visited them in the past. My previous phone's iOS would give me similar predictions but it wouldn't let me know well in advance or constantly remind me and give updates.

This got me thinking about where the AI of these phones and devices is headed. Having the phone update me well in advance felt almost like the phone was trying to tell me what to do. Like a parent coming down stairs every five minutes while the kids are watching TV to remind them that then need to get dressed if they are to leave on time to get to school. Now, of course, there is no reason, per se, to feel like the phone is trying to 'control' in a negative sense, as that is just an emotional reaction. One could just as easily see the benefit of having the technology consider things for you so that you are freed up to focus on the important things like a particular conversation you are having with a client or a creative task that you are engaged in.

But then I was checking my email this morning and I noticed something that either hasn't happened before or that I just never picked up on previously. There was an email thread with a colleague that had gone back and forth between us a few times and the last email was from me to them and contained a rhetorical question that was meant as a joke. Thus, there was no response from the other person and it had been several days since I had sent the reply. Of course, I wasn't expecting a reply, but Gmail had placed a note on the email indicating that it had been 4 days with no response and asking whether I would like to follow up (presumably to ask my question again or remind the person that I was awaiting a response.) I had to actively dismiss the suggestion from Gmail so that it was no longer sitting there in orange text demanding my attention each time I checked my email.

Imagine a world where parents buy a robot to take care of their children and the robot decides what TV shows the child will watch, what they learn, what they eat, and what they do for fun? What if it does so based on the inventory of the partner companies associated with the maker of the robot? What if the 'free version' gets to advertise whatever it wants, whenever it wants to the child? Seems unlikely? I mean, parents already put their kids in front of TV's for hours on end to be advertised to. And now, with Amazon's Alexa people are beginning to feel very comfortable not having to lift a finger to do menial things, and sadly 'child care' is seen as one the menial things, along with education, that must just get done during the day. There is very little self-responsibility within parenting and education as they currently exist.

(note: the Robo Nanny was just an idea that I had as something that was likely, but a quick google search revealed that it's already here: The AvatarMInd iPal Robot for Children )

Is our technology trying to help us become more responsible or is it trying to tell us what to do?

Of course it would be silly to assign intent to our technology, but, then, it is being programmed by other human beings, who do have intentions, whether we know them or not.

Now, in order to avoid coming across as paranoid (which I am not), let me place more context here.

As human beings, we have abdicated a great deal of self-responsibility for our own thoughts, feelings, and emotions. We have accepted a system that manages all of the things that we require to survive in this world. Should our lack of responsibility for our own internal worlds interfere with the effective management of that system, what should the system do?

Is the system designed to optimize our freedom or optimize survival?

I would suggest, that if you look at the world, the system's design is to ensure survival, as we have to constantly 'fight' for freedom in many ways. But, is it even OUR survival that the system is designed to ensure? No, it is the survival of the SYSTEM that it is programmed to preserve. You can see this even within your own mind. Your mind is not programmed with your own actual best interest as its primary guiding principle. It is programmed to guide you to survive, but only if that survival ensures the survival of the greater system that we live in. I mean, where does your mind come from? Surely not from YOU, as you didn't have one when you were born. It comes FROM THE SYSTEM, as a function of your environment, the people around you when you are little, and your education. Yes, your genetics plays a large role, but that is simply the accumulated information from generations before, which is therefore shaped through iterations of experience lived by your ancestors. That information is then stored in your DNA and given to you.

Perhaps the most important part of that which is given to you is the rate at which you learn. Some experts argue that intelligence is genetic, but they struggle to find the specific genes that control intelligence. I would suggest that it is not your 'intelligence' per se that is genetic, but rather your rate of learning and ability to remember and recall that is genetic. Because those are structural things. Those are programmable things. If you study neural networks you will find that it is quite simple, in principle, to adjust the learning rate of a neural net to optimize the system's ability to learn from experience.

I would suggest that this is generally what gives people a competitive advantage in the system over others. The ability to learn quickly. Humans are born with a Natural Learning Ability; that is, they are not born with a set culture or way of thinking or believing, but they are able to learn from those around them and from the systems that are present in their environment. They adapt to circumstances. Its kind of like a real-time evolution process. If you take a Chinese-born baby and transplant them the moment they are born into American culture with American parents, they will not adopt Chinese culture, but American culture. That is so obvious. Yet, they will have certain abilities that will give them an advantage over another child born into American culture that will allow them to compete more or less effectively in the education and economic systems. That is more of a problem, though, of the rigidity of our system in valuing it's own survival over that of supporting all life equally. Because, we, as humans, have not taken full responsibility for the system that WE PARTICIPATE IN and GIVE LIFE TO, it has not been engineered to support all Life equally. Instead it does whatever ensures its own survival.

So, will we as humans step up and take self-responsibility for what we are accepting and allowing as a system that governs and manages the resources on this planet? A system that educates our young? A system that decides what entertainment is and is not? A system that determines for you, through education and environment, what your purpose will be? A system that optimizes its own survival at the expense of YOUR INDIVIDUAL FREEDOM and SOVEREIGNTY?

Do we have to choose between survival and freedom? Yes and no.

The survival of a system where we take very little to no self-responsibility for WHO WE ARE and what is acceptable is incompatible with a system of optimal individual freedom and creativity.

If we were to stand up and step up into our true nature, which is that of an adaptable creator, and take self-responsibility, we can guide the system to take care of OUR SURVIVAL and support ALL LIFE equally. The potential to create a heaven on earth is ALREADY HERE, but the BIGGEST MISSING PIECE has still not been fully realized. WE EACH have to step into FULL SELF-RESPONSIBILITY.

Otherwise, our devices, our technology, and the system will encroach on our individual freedom little by little. First our devices will remind us gently that we are late for an appointment. Then later they will simply shut down your vehicle if you decide you'd rather not go to work today but head back home and spend time enjoying life with your kids that day. Does the system care what you 'enjoy'?

No.

But, do YOU care whether all Life is supported to be its best expression?

No, you don't.

And of those two sad, basic facts of reality at the moment, the only one that really matters is WHAT YOU CARE ABOUT.

We have the solution right in our hands, and it starts with education. We have the technology to optimize the ability for each individual to learn and obtain an equally effective level of education, so that survival of the fittest is no longer the driving force behind our evolution as a species. Instead we can drive evolution based on the principle of 'creation of what is best'. Because only with that starting point can we have the best possible world and thus the best possible life experience.

And deep down, isn't that we are all really want anyway?