Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child

After having a discussion online with some parents who argued that sometimes children need to be spanked, I am placing this as self-forgiveness of the pattern.

We cannot EXPECT another to take self-responsibility, so we do it ourselves, taking responsibility for the pattern even if it is not a pattern we are directly living, personally - that is irrelevant - we forgive unconditionally EVERY pattern that we see that is not best for all. That is the purpose of this journey - to forgive until NOTHING remains so that we can recreate this world in the image and likeness of Equality an Oneness as What is Best for All.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel angry at parents who hit their children.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge parents who hit their children as bad, evil, and not caring about their children.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that parents hit their children out of fear.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself, as a parent who would hit their children, to not realize that hitting a child cannot in any way develop the child's reasoning ability, it is only instructing them to be afraid and thus comply with the dictates of a dictator (parent, government, media, teacher, boss, etc).

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel guilty as a parent that hits their children.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that it is possible to support a child effectively without ever hitting them.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that hitting is a form of physical abuse and that regardless of whether one call it 'spanking' or 'discipline' it is an unacceptable way to interact with a child - that it does not in fact support them to express themselves as who they really are as life - it in fact diminish life in the child through self-suppression.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge my parents for hitting me as a child.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself, as a parent who would hit their child, justify hitting children by saying 'I only hit them a little' or 'it was only a little swat on the butt', not realizing that even in the spanking that doesn't 'hurt' the emotions of the parent, the starting point of the parent, is what is coming through and transferring to the child - and thus if a parent tries to CONTROL the behavior of a child through ANY form of hitting - this is no different than a slave master controlling the slave through hitting and fear.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that the evidence is clear that hitting a child lowers their ability to reason effectively.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that it does not make sense that one could teach a child to not hit another through hitting the child as punishment or as a 'lesson.'

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to abuse the saying 'spare the rod, spoil the child' to justify why I would hit.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not investigate the real meaning 'spare the rod, spoil the child' where 'spare the rod' refers to the rod as a symbol of wisdom, as in 'thy rod and thy staff comfort me' where it is a symbol of the parent/God who understands what the child doesn't and thus if the parent 'spare the rod' and do not give their child an effective vocabulary/ability to reason and explain things to their child, not expecting them to immediately understand, but giving them the opportunity and living the word patience within knowing that it takes time to integrate information and understanding, knowing that children do not come with instructions, and thus every thought, feeling, belief, behavior, fear, reaction, etc within the parent, even before the child was born, will now become the instructions that are transferred to the child as inFORMation through the parent's example as behavior - and this happens in quantum time - and thus even though a parent cannot see directly how the behavior of a child is a reflection of the parent, it is - and thus when the parent hit the child, they are hitting the child to stop the child from living out a pattern that the parent themselves have not taken responsibility for - even if the parent has suppressed it - all the hitting would potentially do, is have the child suppress the behavior, but this will lead to all kinds of emotional problems later in life as the self-suppressions come to the surface.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself, as a parent who would hit their child, to feel justified within hitting because of the fear within myself that my child will not conform to the behavioral standards that I believe are good and that my child will someday be an embarrassment to me, cause me shame, or cause harm to another.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to, as a parent who hits their children, to simultaneously believe the statement 'an eye for an eye, makes the whole world blind' and yet that the Bible also justifies hitting children, even though the previous statement would imply that this will create a world of abusers, as it clearly does.

I commit myself to stand in the face of parents/people who justify hitting children as an acceptable form of educating a child and to prove that one can support both boys and girls to develop an effective ability to reason and to value equal life in all without resorting to physical or emotional abuse of the child to control them.

I commit myself to show that the best way to parent/educate a child is to support them to develop their ability to reason and communicate through using TechnoTutor, and to also utilize the Desteni Process and TechnoTutor for oneself as a parent to take responsibility for the patterns within oneself to prevent them from being transferred to the child and to direct them in the best way when this was not prevented.

Testing the Waters

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear going on all in to support Life and to do what is best for all.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to have even one point within me that wants to hold back from doing what is best for all, not realizing that even one point is the same as completely holding back, as there is NO MIDDLE ROAD when it comes to what is best, I am either standing with and as Life as what is best for all or I am not.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to participate in the desire to 'test things out' which is really just an excuse to not fully participate, 100%, to do everything that is necessary to bring about the result that is best, and within this 'testing out' to allow for a point of blame outside of myself when things do not work out properly, which is in essence the starting point of not wanting to change and take full self responsibility for being the change that will bring about the result that is best for all.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to look for faults in others as a way to project my own decision to not take full self responsibility to be the change that is best for all and to thus hold on to a point of blame of something outside of me that will justify why I didn't have to change and go all in for what is best for all.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that the point of doing what is best for all is not only for an external result that is for 'someone or something else' but is in fact FOR ME and the belief that I 'have to do something for others' is equal to and one with believing and stating that I am separate from everyone and everything and is thus an indicator that I have not in fact made the decision to stand within the starting point of real equality and oneness as what is best for ALL which includes me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to, in spite of knowing what is best to do in a moment, allowed fear, excuse, and justification, within blame, to DICTATE what I do as what is not best for all, and within that I am accepting and allowing myself to be nothing more than a slave in the control of a dictator, and yet I AM the DICTATOR, because the dictum is IN MY OWN HEAD and I am the one deciding to listen to, defend, justify, and believe that which is just words in my head, and within this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be the slave to words in my head and feelings in my body, which are self-created over time through acceptance and allowance, and I realize that if I consistently, over time, apply myself within what is best, through breathing, writing, self forgiveness and self corrective action as do what is common sense as what is best for all in each moment, that I will eventually completely break through the control within and without as words that are designed to keep me as a slave to the system that is not best for me or anyone/anything else.

I commit myself to show to myself and thus others that consistent, breath by breath action as what is best will accumulate to a result that is best for all, and that it is the consistent, breath by breath action in the context of what is NOT best for all that has accumulated the result of what we now see today as the world and world system and what we experience within as the control mechanism of our mind speaking to us and generating feelings through training of the body to never stand equal and one to the physical here as what is best for all.

I commit myself to stand equal and one to both the mind and the physical to use the mind as the tool that it is and to stand within and as the body as what it really is as equal to and one with physical reality which is what is real and which we have abdicated responsibility towards as humanity and where the solution to Heaven on Earth is actually to be found in adjusting the system that is here to produce only that which is best, not for the mind as feelings only, but for the physical body as what is optimal and required to live a life of dignity, full expression, and TRUE BLISS where no consequence is allowed that creates lack or suffering in ANY part of existence at ANY TIME, and within this I commit myself to show that this is the ONLY PURPOSE of being here worth giving to oneself and that anything less will only produce conflict which will create more problems which will eventually consume us to be a slave to consequence as we have already become, thus the true purpose of being here is to take FULL SELF RESPONSIBILITY for everything I am capable of and to even push beyond any perceived LIMIT so that I will have no REGRET or EXCUSE when my final breath comes.

Fear of Facing Self

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear speaking to other people about the reality of this world.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear facing the reality of this world.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that the fear of facing others and facing the reality of this world, is in fact fear of loss of stopping within myself that which is manifesting and has created the world as it is.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to deceive myself into believing that I am making a difference in the world, when I have in fact taken the point of changing the world and used it as a way to feel special and in that create an energetic feeling within myself of superiority and judgment towards others, which is in fact me not stopping that within myself which is creating the real problems on earth.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that there are many layers of self deception within myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want other to change, when I had not been willing to change for real myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to continue participating in my mind as thoughts, feelings, justifications, fears, and beliefs that I have changed.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel guilty that I have not actually stopped participating in my mind and within energy.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to utilize the point of guilt to manipulate myself further with thoughts and feelings of wanting to give up the point of changing for real, which is just another way to deceive myself into continuing participating in the mind.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that others do not want to change, and within this, I haven't accepted and allowed myself to realize that this thought is just a way to continue participating in my mind.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I am special, when in fact I am exactly the same as everyone else, equal and one to what I accept and allow within myself and without.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use the point that others may not want to change as a way to not live that which I have realized for myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to participate in the fear of rejection within myself as a projection of what might happen when I speak up with others about what is really happening within ourselves and within this world and what the real solution is.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that changing myself is a process because I had accepted and allowed many layers of memories throughout my life and lifetimes which are now manifested in the physical world, and thus as mentioned in the previous post, I realize that changing myself is a moment to moment, breath by breath, application of self honesty in each moment as to stopping participation in thoughts, feelings, and emotions, and acting as what is best for all in that moment based on what I am practically able to do in that moment.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to realize that Life is not what I might do in the future, it is what I do in this moment, in this breath, as that is the only point that is guaranteed, is this current moment, and thus it is THE POINT within which I establish myself as self-trust within self-honesty.

I commit myself to breathe, and within my breath, to check whether I am participating in my mind or whether I am acting within self honesty as what is best, and to when I see that I am participating in my mind, as I realize that I have automated this point to a great extent, that I immediately stop, focus on my breath, apply self-forgiveness to release myself from that participation in the mind and to dismantle whatever construct I have created that is causing me to automatically participate in the mind.

I commit myself to stand, even while I am walking this process, to share with others, to present solutions to what we have created as consequences on earth, as well as the tools through which I am supporting myself to take more and more responsibility for what I have accepted and allowed within myself as who I am and to change that, and to thus support others to do the same.

Please, Distract Me!

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to only want to see things on the news that paint a pretty picture about what is happening on earth.

 I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that if I only look at pretty images that make me feel good then the earth and life will reflect this inner feeling, when in fact the good feeling that I have is only because I have access to money, and that if I were in a position without money, looking at pretty pictures would not make me feel better except for the point of motivating my desire to make money to create that pretty picture for myself, regardless of what I create in the world as a consequence.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that when I focus on feeling good within, I am actually only focused on my own self interest and thus I am ignoring the suffering that is occurring daily on the planet, not to mention the suffering of my own physical body which I am mining for energy in order to experience a good feeling.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that I have never questioned the system that is running this world, automatically producing events and situations that are in fact extremely negative as abuse of people, animals, plants, and the physical environment, in order to generate money, which I use to make myself feel good through creating a personal environment where I am surrounded with that which I need and desire as food, shelter, technology, entertainment, etc.

I forgive myself that I have never accepted and allowed myself to realize that entertainment is nothing more than a pretty picture that I use to distract myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that even being entertained by 'negative' images is still a form of distraction because it supports my mind to 'experience' a negative temporarily to then justify seeking a positive state of feeling good, in contrast to the negative.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not consider the physical toll that making a move, for instance, has on the physical environment and those involved who have to slave away to create a pretend picture for me to distract myself with, or the news, for instance, where someone is required to spend their whole life just putting pictures together for me to experience and thus even my entertainment requires a money system to enslave others to sacrifice their lives creating a picture for me, while I completely ignore the real picture in front of my very eyes as the physical world replete with suffering, abuse, murder, war, starvation, poverty, child abuse, child sacrifice, and so many abhorrent things that I shield myself from using entertainment and positive, pretty pictures to distract my physical body from realizing that I am enslaving it along with the rest of the physical existence just to create a temporary, good feeling within myself that I know, self honestly, cannot last, which is why the system must constantly evolve new ways to distract/entertain me and everyone else, so that we never realize what we are participating in, and yet I cannot self-honestly blame the system, because this is actually what I have asked for and placed value on with my dollars so that I can continue with the energy game within myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to blame the media and the elite for producing entertainment and news that distracts when it would not be produced if no one were going to consume it, and further, I cannot blame another for taking advantage of a system that I am taking advantage of within the exact same starting point to generate money for myself to be able to experience as good a life as possible regardless of the physical toll on my body and this physical world.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that searching for/seeking positive energy experience is actually a form of entertainment when the physical world is suffering and that the energy game is in itself of no value and that if I were truly a creative being I would stop looking for ways to entertain myself with energy and I would focus all of my attention on the physical world to find/create/promote solutions to the physical problems that exist - an unequal money and education being the two prominent ones that would have the greatest impact on reducing suffering and creating prosperity and a life of dignity for all equally.

I commit myself to investigate, question, and stop all the forms and ways in which I distract myself from what is really Here on earth through not wanting to see a negative image that is in fact showing what is really Here or wanting to see a positive image that misrepresents our current reality or entertains/distracts me while I allow the system to continue as is.

I commit myself to investigate and expose the ways in which the system automatically produces distractions to entertain people to not stand up and adjust the system so that the NEED to be distracted no longer exists, and to investigate and stand within all the ways in which media/business can be used to support people to stand up within themselves and walk this process of self-correction and world-system correction until the system is brought to a point of supporting what is best for all equally as one.