Preventing Dysfunction in Children through Effective Parenting part 1

See this Facebook post: Communicating with a 2 year old in the toy aisle and this Facebook post: communicating with a 2 year old before shopping for context.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to, as a parent, fear my child throwing a tantrum in a store to beg me to buy something.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that, as a parent, my child is influenced by many things, especially if I am not specific with what I expose my child to, and thus when I take them to a store, depending on the type of store, the store is set up to activate desires within the child based on imagery and adverts that the child has seen previously or based on memories that I transferred to my child through DNA.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize the many times I have thrown a tantrum for not getting my way, both outwardly and inwardly.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that unless I prepare my child with an effective vocabulary from a young age, which means that I must prepare my own vocabulary to be effective, then I will not be able to communicate with my child what the expectations are when going into a store.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that if I prepare my child effectively before going to a store, then the chances of my child throwing a tantrum to get me to buy something are reduced considerably.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that a child doesn't just 'throw a tantrum' meaning that it is not just an isolated incident, it is a behavior based on the totality of who the child is, what they know, what influences have been imprinted in them, and the totality of how I have interacted with them, and the environment they have grown up in.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize all of the times that I have been impatient within my interactions with my child.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be concerned with what other people will think of me as a parent and a person if my child cries, or begs, or whines, or throws a fit or tantrum.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that every time I react or change my decision based on my child crying, begging, whining, etc it shows that I can be manipulated.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that every time I yell at or hit my child out of a reaction, it teaches them that I cannot be trusted and that they should fear me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel angry towards my child when they cry, hit, whine, beg, scream, whimper, or throw a fit or tantrum.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel guilty about making mistakes with my children.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel guilty about not being the best example of a living being for my children.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that I have participated in wanting to buy something out of the energy I would get from possessing it, owning it, playing with it, showing it off, or from the image I want to fulfill of having it in my life and experience.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to punish my child for something that exists within me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that punishment itself is not the solution to supporting a child to develop as an effective human being, as it only creates fear of punishment, and therefore no real expression or living as creativity can exist when their is fear, and it will only create a dysfunctional character who tries to control themselves and others to prevent the experience of being punished.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that punishment is the only real solution to behavioral dysfunction in a child, that I would not consider to support them to develop their vocabulary, because I did not realize that vocabulary is the means through which they will understand the true consequences for their actions, and understand how reality works so that they can make decisions for themselves rather than having to be controlled by me as the parent, because I won't always be there, and I realize that if I instill fear of punishment and authority in my child, they will always be susceptible to control by others who present themselves as authorities even when they really aren't.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge parents who hit their children or yell at them as a form of punishment or behavioral control.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear hitting my child out of anger automatically and then regretting it.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear the experience of regretting hitting my child.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear my child hating me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear not being able to give my child the best.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to compare myself to other parents and feel bad about not being able to give my child what they give to theirs.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that the money system creates inequality in parenting.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize my responsibility towards supporting myself and others to be the best parents possible within the context of the limitations of this system.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize my responsibility towards myself, Life, others, all children, to stand up and change the money system so that all are supported equally as what is best for all.

I commit myself to stand and support other parents and show that the best way to support a child to develop effectively in the best way is to develop for myself and my spouse an effective vocabulary and equal and one agreement of support in standing as what is best for all and to support my children to develop an effective vocabulary and equal and one agreement with themselves to always place what is best for all as the starting point of one's life.

Facing the Emotions of Desire to Buy/Shop

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to place value on the experience of buying things, from the perspective of an energetic experience of fun, positivity, happiness, exhilaration, excitement.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to buy things in order to feel good.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create within me a character/lifestyle that constantly desires the experience of shopping and buying things.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that the experience of shopping is 'living'.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that the desire to shop and to buy and the energetic experience associated with it is only possible due to having money which currently only exists in an unequal system, and thus placing value on shopping and buying things as an energetic experience implies that I am a slave to the system of inequality and in fact just doing its bidding under the energetic/emotional control of feelings and thoughts that support the desire for energy through the buying experience.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that there is more to life than shopping/buying/owning things.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that participating in the feelings of shopping and buying as energetic experiences only charges and perpetuates the existence of the consumer system within me as self-interest which diverts my attention from what is Here as focusing on the solutions to the real problems on earth.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel guilty about getting pleasure from shopping and buying things.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear losing the experience of the energy I have come to associate with shopping and buying things as my mind does not know what it means to live without the constant feed of energy, as the money system does not know either.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that, although I am within an unequal system and thus at the moment I must participate at the level of being within it physically, that does not mean that I must participate in the energetic experience within myself - it is possible to be IN the system, but not OF the system.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear transferring the desire to consume as shopping and buying out of excitement, to my children.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not be the proper example of how to exist currently in the money system without becoming trapped within the energy of experience within buying, shopping, and consuming.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that it will be difficult to walk within the system in order to change it without becoming lost within the system - but this requires focus on my self as what I am participating within internally to forgive all the points where I see I am allowing my emotions/feelings/thoughts/desires to direct me instead of common sense as what is best for all.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that the positive energy experience that I get from shopping and buying things, which I had taken for granted, comes at the expense of others' lives, animals lives, the environment being consumed without regard for how to manage it in the best way.

I commit myself to walk through the emotions/feelings/thoughts/desires that exist as my mind that suggest for me to participate in the experience of energy through buying and shopping and re-learn how to live without the fear of loss of energy experience, being here in the system, doing what is required to stand up and change the system so that it is best for all, while at the same time supporting myself to remove that which comes up as desire for experience as energy - to learn discernment between what is real, physical living, and what is simply emotional experience in the mind.